Today I would like to introduce you to India who is going to be sharing her pregnancy journey with you all over the coming months. When India contacted us a little while back about sharing her pregnancy diary we found out she had actually been at University with our lovely Fern. Small world and all that. Anyway, I hope you will say a big hello to India and we look forward to sharing the rest of her pregnancy with you over the coming months.
It’s funny, isn’t it, how as women we seem to spend a lot of our lives being told to be scared of getting pregnant, having the risks of missing just one pill drilled into us, and nervously waiting for our period to arrive. For the majority of us the only time we really start to think about the actual detail of the baby making process isn’t until we have been trying to avoid pregnancy for quite some time. Then all of a sudden we realise the monthly chances of conceiving are less than 30%, assuming everything is hunky dory and healthy.
There wasn’t ever really a question of whether we wanted to have a baby, it was always on the cards for us, but the timing was of much debate in our house. Despite us having been together almost 13 years this June (we got together young!) I had a bit of a set list of things I wanted to have in place before we started to think about trying. These were mainly boring things like earning a certain amount, being on a permanent contract etc. Also at the back of my mind lurked the fear that we may not be amongst the lucky ones. I was very aware that it could take a year or more of trying and that’s if you’re amongst the lucky ones who can conceive naturally.
I would say the year before I came off the pill the uncertainty was almost unbearable and started affecting our life choices. We were starting to look at moving house but felt stuck and paralysed by the not knowing of whether a baby would be on the cards for us, how long it might take, and what might happen in between.
In the end I felt like my practical reasons for not starting to try for a baby were becoming fewer and fewer – my contract at work was made open ended, and then I got promoted to a higher grade with a better salary and more holiday. It sounds clinical but I realised that this would be a really good point to take maternity leave, and that if we waited too much longer I might be in a new job and then have to wait a year to be eligible for maternity pay. I felt like I had to start thinking seriously about every life choice before even coming off the pill. The final frontier was the travelling I definitely wanted to do before having a baby. My husband agreed to us moving our trip to Australia forward by a year, and all of a sudden we had a date set for starting to try to conceive a little baby of our own.
Now I will say that there were definitely catalysts for this decision along the way. When we got married in 2015, there was only one baby at the wedding, mainly because very few of our friends had children. In the year that followed the babies arrived in their droves around us. As we watched our friends battle with the challenge of parenthood we looked at them and thought ‘we want that’. I realised that there is never a perfect time, career wise, to have a baby, and that sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and hope for the best. I started to feel something I hadn’t felt before, and calling it ‘broody’ doesn’t seem to do it justice. It was almost like an awakening of a longing that I had sort of always known was there and now there was no denying it.
On one particular August weekend, we spent time with friends and their various five kids in tow, ranging from 1 week to 9 years old. In the park, whilst I was holding a two year old’s hand and my husband was carrying along a one year old on his hip, I said to him ‘shall I just throw away the pill prescription I’ve got in my bag?’. He looked at me, shocked and said, ‘What? Really, are you serious?’ The joy on his face was pretty clear, and I realised he may have been hiding just how much this was something he wanted, most probably to respect and protect me.
And so it was decided. Ok so we did have to chat things through a little bit more, as we had a trip to Australia booked in two months’ time that I didn’t really want to be vomming my guts up during, but we decided that I would look into how best to prepare myself for stopping the pill after over 12 years of being on it with very few small gaps. I researched and popped into Holland and Barrett to get myself some vitamin B complex, to help regulate my hormones, alongside a probiotic to help with my gut health which is pretty bad as I have IBS. I was scared of what would happen to my body, and to my skin as I was on Yasmin to help with acne I had suffered with previously. Popping those pills every day as I prepared to come off the actual contraceptive pill gave me a focus, and helped me to feel like I was doing everything I could to prepare myself.
I am a pretty compulsive planner, and the idea that this monumental thing in our life would be so out of my hands meant I tried to control everything that I possibly could. I even bought some conception pregnacare tablets (which I never actually took, they are still in the drawer), and tried to talk my husband into taking some supplements, to which he responded ‘let’s see how we get on, if it doesn’t work I will take anything you want me to take and eat any kind of ridiculous diet, but let’s just give it a go first’. So sensible, so grounded, so opposite to me with my bottles of pills piling up on the sideboard.
Then came the time for actually trying. Aka all the horrible names (like baby making and doing the deed) that it is called on the forums, which I will no doubt end up using here as I don’t want to bang on (excuse the pun) about sex for the whole time. I won’t go into much detail about the actual hardcore conception part because I think my husband would absolutely kill me if I gave intimate details of our private life out online, but the first time we had sex after I came off the pill there were definitely nerves in the room. It just felt so strange to shift from 12 years of actively trying NOT to get pregnant, to wanting it so much. I didn’t want to become obsessive but it’s hard, so I decided to prepare myself and bought a set of ovulation tests and a basal thermometer, ready to track things if necessary. I promised myself I wouldn’t do anything with them for six months, and bought a two pack of pregnancy tests as well, just in case. With this arsenal of products in the bathroom cabinet I felt like we were as prepared as possible, yet still totally unprepared as we still just didn’t know what was in store for us and if it would ever happen for us.
Thankfully because of our impending Australia trip, we kind of viewed the first month I was off the pill as a ‘settling down’ month. This was all very well but when my period still hadn’t arrived after 30 days off the pill I thought we had hit the jackpot. One negative pregnancy test later and I realised just how much I wanted this, and my fears that it might not all be as easy as we had hoped started to skyrocket. I know that seems silly, to overreact so much after just one month of ‘trying’, but I think it opened my eyes to what a rollercoaster trying for a baby is. We only had a small taste of it, but I suddenly realised just how hard it is to spend each month watching and waiting, symptom spotting at every little thing, only for it all to turn to nothing at the end of it. I can only imagine how much harder this gets the longer the trying goes on for, and my heart goes out to everyone who goes through this pain month after month.
In that first month it actually turned out that my cycle was just settling down to its usual length, which ended up being 35 days. Cue me googling whether this made it less likely for me to conceive, and obsessively scouring forums for whether the length of cycle had an impact on the healthiness of the egg. It’s like entering a whole new world, with dedicated acronyms, new terminology and I did find myself falling into the trap of reading the TTC forums late into the night. I know they can be a great source of comfort and support, but for me I think they heightened every fear and worry I had, and were probably best avoided.
Once we were back from our Australia trip we managed to stay pretty laid back about things. The ovulation sticks stayed firmly in the drawer but I started to look more closely at my cervical mucus. I figured this was an easy (albeit pretty icky) way to keep an eye on things, and I just sort of thought I would pay more attention for this month and see how we got on. I know that some people will cringe at me mentioning this, but I wish it got more airtime on standard places, it seems that lots of people use this as a last resort. Turns out this must be pretty effective, or I just got lucky, as this was the month we hit the jackpot. I think the best thing about paying attention to this is that it’s free, it’s natural, for most people it’s easy to do, and once you know what you’re looking for it gives you a really clear sign of when you might be ovulating. I won’t go into the detail of how it works here, but a simple google will give you all the info you need.
Our Australia trip made me realise that the key to getting through this process of trying was to try my best to relax and focus on other things. It might sound silly but giving myself other things to look forward to was a real help in taking my mind off the big old elephant in the room.
That same month after we got home I had the weirdest cramping. I’ve never felt anything like it before but I didn’t want to read too much into it. So I continued to act normal, as I just couldn’t face months of two week waits where I tried to act pregnant, only to find out I wasn’t.
My period was due on the Friday, and I didn’t test until the Sunday morning as I was so determined that the test in my drawer wouldn’t be used until it gave a positive result. Sure enough at 6am on the Sunday morning, I didn’t have to wait the full two minutes for the second line to appear on the test, it literally filled the window immediately. I was so, so happy, as was my husband when he woke up and found the test on the side of the bath whilst I was feeding the cats!
I couldn’t believe it was happening, I was so so sure that we would be the ones taking at least a year to conceive if we were that lucky at all. Then as soon as I had found out, the doubts started to creep in – what if everything isn’t ok, what if it’s a molar pregnancy or an ectopic pregnancy? Maybe I’m just a negative person, but all of a sudden the stakes just seemed so high, and my power to do anything about it was lower than ever. And so into the first trimester I skipped, feeling happy, scared, but oh so hopeful that in under nine months I would be meeting our little one.
Hello India *waves* look forward to following your journey 😘
Hope you’re feeling well and congratulations x
Thanks! Feeling good at this stage, very excited to be sharing my journey with all the lovely RMF readers xx
This is brilliant. We have been trying to start a family since Christmas and, like you, in January I was late, and so we assumed we’d been successful straightaway, only to be disappointed. I think stress/nerves can alter your cycle a little bit and so knowing you’re trying to bring about such a huge change in your life perhaps meddles with things?! We’re trying not to think about it too much and just enjoy ourselves, but it is hard when you realise you want something so badly (perhaps it’s more accurate to say that I am thinking about it but not telling my husband that I am, so that at least one of us can be relaxed!). The forums are tricky as they can be filled with negativity but unless you want to share what you’re planning with people in real life (we don’t) it can be difficult to know what is ‘normal’. Congratulations on your pregnancy. I look forward to reading more. Hopefully I’ll be joining you in a few months!
Hi Laura, so glad it is helpful in some way to know that others go through the same thought processes, I definitely was worried about keeping things relaxed whilst at the same time it was all my mind could think about. Wishing you all the luck in the world and really hope you will join me in the crazy pregnancy journey soon! Xx
Congratulations! I still vividly remember doing the positive pregnancy test which resulted in my now 11 month old. My heart was in my mouth and the feeling of elation and then terror that quickly followed. I look forward to following your pregnancy journey xx
Thank you lovely! It is such a funny feeling isn’t it, nothing quite like it. Xx
Hi India, thanks so much for sharing your story of deciding how you were ready.
Like you, I think it’s amazing that us ladies spend so much time trying not to get pregnant that when we do decide we’re ready we realise (well in my case anyway) that we don’t have a clue about the science of it and how likely it is to happen!
My husband and I have been deciding whether or not it’s the time recently as we’ve both wanted children for a couple of years but have been waiting until the time is right, but how do you know for sure the time is right? Your decision to start earlier than planned has definitely helped me to think that our decision to start trying isn’t wreckless and to try to be more confident in my body’s ability to do this!
I’m an obsessive planner too so have been tracking my periods for years on an app called Clue – did you use anything like this? To be honest I’m not sure it’s useful as I’ve been on the pill for so long who knows what my natural cycle is like but hoping it will help!
Good luck with your pregnancy, try to stay positive! I can’t wait to hear the rest of your story. X
Congratulations India. I look forward to reading the rest of your story over the coming months. We had a similar experience with deciding when to start ‘trying’. We decided we wanted to move house first and then we wanted to having finished the decorating. With hindsight this was silly as it meant by the time we started trying we actually felt really ready for a baby and so it wasn’t long before ready became desperate. It actually ended up taking over two years due to four miscarriages and a molar pregnancy but it was all worth it in the end. Our advice to others now is to not wait until you’re truly ready for a baby as you’ll have 9 long months to get ready (and then you’ll realise you can never actually be ready for what it’s like having a baby). Instead start trying (or not preventing) when the thought of having a baby isn’t something which has you in a cold sweat and googling where to get the morning after pill. That way you avoid a lot of the monthly heartache and the ‘trying’ doesn’t become too pressurised or regimented x
This is so true! It’s a really hard balance, isn’t it, knowing when you are ‘ready’, because as you say in lots of ways by the time you are feeling 100% ready you still have the trying part and then the pregnancy part to get through, which as you say can be very lengthy and not at all straightforward. Similarly I think we all have a fear of starting to try too soon and feeling panicked before baby arrives, but in all honesty I think we all have those moments of panic anyway even if we did feel ‘ready’! Thank you for sharing your advice and I’m so happy to hear your journey was worth it all in the end xx
Ahhh loved reading this! Our first baby just sort of happened without trying (I’d missed a few pills but I’d been told I would struggle to conceive so didn’t expect to get pregnant that easily) but the second one was more planned – I couldn’t veluevs how quickly I became so focused on ‘TTC’ and how consuming it was! I was reading all the forums late at night too! I second the recommendation for monitoring cervical mucus, I found it an easy way to tell when I was ovulating and I conceived the 3rd month of trying. I have friends who’ve had success with ovulation tests too but I didn’t want to start with all that until a few months down the line. Was trying to keep it less clinical to begin with and like you say, hide the mild obsessiveness (!) from my husband! X
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The late night forum obsessiveness is real, isn’t it! I have had to kick the habit now pregnant (despite the preggo insomnia making it tempting) because otherwise I would just be a complete nervous wreck. So glad the CM approach worked for you, I know it’s not for everyone but in so many ways I found it less ‘full on’ than ovulation tests. I know it’s not for everyone, and it felt very much like it bordered on oversharing to mention it, but I couldn’t not when it might help someone. Xx
Congratulations!! We also made a similar move to you, although I was quite hoping to be pregnant on our recent trip to Australia. Luckily or unluckily, whichever way you want to view it, I wasn’t pregnant (despite having tried the ovulation test route – tooooo stressful!) and got to enjoy the boozy side of Australia and not have to spend the already horrendous journey being sick (even though i was… dehydration!). Now we’re home and continuing and just hoping we’re one of the 6 months – 12 months ones and desperately trying to find other things to keep my mind on. Fingers crossed we get to feel that excitement of double lines soon! Look forward to reading the rest of your journey over the next few months x
Hi Jenny, I know exactly what you mean on the Australia front, I was torn between wanting it to happen but at the same time knowing it would make the journey much harder! In the end my first trimester was quite easy but I was so glad I wasn’t experiencing the crazy tiredness in Aus as I think it would have limited what we could do on our trip for sure. Keeping everything crossed for you that your trying journey is successful, and as I mention in the post my advice is to distract yourself by planning other holidays and treats! Xx
Thanks India! Hope you enjoyed the trip though too – such an amazing country. I’m now continuing with planning new cars (baby friendly in mind!) and work to be done on our house. Hope the rest of it continues well for you – my friend didn’t find out till she was 8 weeks and had nothing but sore boobs! She’s now 20 weeks and doing so well – i’m a little jealous but get to coo over all her shopping plans and baby scans!! At least having other people around with babies is great and i’ve got a variety of friends who are either trying or had tried for a while to ease my mind along with posts like this! 🙂
It sounds like you’re taking a really positive approach to the whole thing which is so admirable! Completely second doing stuff to the house, we are still doing stuff now and the nesting instinct is definitely making me over ambitious, still a new kitchen to come before baby arrives…we don’t like to make things simple for ourselves do we?! Best of luck with it all, I’m sure you will be shopping for your own baby clothes before you know it xx
Congratulations India, I look forward to hearing more about your pregnancy journey.
I was in a similar position in that my husband was definitely more keen for a baby than me initially, I always had an excuse at the ready be it a holiday, house renovations etc. He became pretty tired of them in the end and joked that id soon be using Easter as a reason not to be pregnant!
We were one of the lucky ones and became pregnant pretty much straight away which brought with it its own challenges – I had assumed it would take a while so I was so shocked to see that positive test. I realise now how lucky we have been but it does make me really paranoid that something is going to go wrong further down the line! I am avoiding forums like the plague! Good luck for the rest of your pregnancy!
Oh my goodness I am right there with you on the ‘surely it can’t be this easy’ feeling, it made the first few weeks (and beyond, to be honest) really quite difficult. As you say, I know the forums are only supposed to help but in reality when you’re worried I think it’s natural to obsess over the worst case scenarios which are shared. I know they are very real for lots of people, but I just try to hold onto the positives whilst staying as realistic as possible. It’s tough, but my mother-in-law did say to me that trying is just the first step along a lifetime of being worried, pregnancy is then the next step and you don’t stop being concerned for your little ones even when they are grown up! Xx
Congratulations India! It’s crazy how trying to conceive can really take over your life if you let it. After conceiving first time with our first, our second took a bit longer, I am known for my impatience so after two months I’d convinced myself I wasn’t ovulating due to no obvious cervical mucus changes so in the advice bought some ovulation test strips, used these for a week but for me I think they made me obsess more because I was clock watching to check I was taking them at the same time and building myself up with hoping each one would say I was ovulating. All were negative. So I decided to ditch those as I didn’t want it to feel like a science experiment. Two weeks later my period was late and I was pregnant! So I guess I just wasn’t ovulating mid cycle as you’d expect. That same month my husband and I had decided to put some proper effort to trying which for us meant having sex every other day from the end of my period til my next one. So that’s my advice to anyone, avoid the science experiments in the early days and just give yourselves the best chance naturally! Good luck to those trying x
Excellent advice, Natalie, I think just trying to relax and enjoy the process is a good idea, as some others have said it’s hard not to obsess but sometimes the stress of worrying about it can affect things. It’s also true what you say about having regular sex, I know it’s not the case for everyone as sometimes there are other issues at play, but in reality it is quite a small window of opportunity that’s easy to miss each month. I definitely think a trip away was the perfect way to distract ourselves from trying and just enjoying spending time together. And absolutely also echo your good luck wishes to all those trying xx
Congratulations India!!
We definitely fall into ‘the ones trying to conceive for a year’ camp.
It took us 10 months to conceive our son and we have just hit the 1 year mark trying for a second. I find the ‘trying’ bloody exhausting and stressfull, because of all the things you mentioned that you obsess over. I find it impossible to relax and during the 2 week wait, I am constantly obsessing over every little twinge and the crushing feeling when your period arrives is just awful!
So, this month I told myself, stuff it, I can’t do this any more and I am just going to relax, focus on other things, have sex when we feel like it and if it happens, it happens. Its hard at the moment because my friends are all popping out their second babies one by one. But I’m really enjoying my little boy (nearly 3 years) and life is pretty good at the moment.
Really enjoyed reading your post and looking forward to reading more about your pregnancy journey!
Ahhh thanks Katie! So interesting to hear experiences of those on their second time of trying. As you say it is so hard not to obsess but focusing on the good things and on enjoying the actual physical part of trying is so important, thankfully it didn’t get to the point where it felt like a chore for us but I can imagine if our journey had been longer it could have been. Fingers crossed your second happens soon! Xx
Congratulations India! I do find it funny how the mindset changes from “mustn’t get pregnant” to “why hasn’t it happened immediately”, it is something we all go through, the stress is incredible. And I’m pretty sure we can all relate to the joy followed by panic in those early weeks of pregnancy too. I look forward to reading the rest of your story, and hope you are feeling ok!
Thanks so much, Annie. Thankfully I am just in the tired stage now and was very lucky and had no morning sickness. Fingers crossed for a healthy rest of pregnancy! Looking forward to sharing the rest of my story with you all over the next few months xx
So lovely to read your story India, and it really couldn’t have come at a better time as we have just decided to start trying in a few months. I have been on the pill for well over 10 years and, to be honest, I’m absolutely terrified about coming off it as I have no idea how my body is going to react. I’m also on Yasmin to help my skin and am dreading the return of acne. How did your skin react? Hoping my cycles return to normal pretty quickly but I will just have to wait and see. Great idea to stock up on Vitamin B Complex to help with hormone regulation. It is definitely strange going from being terrified of getting pregnant, to being terrified of not getting pregnant!
Hi Jenny,
I was very lucky with my skin when I came off, I don’t know if starting the vitamin B a little while before coming off, alongside a probiotic (also from holland and barrrett) did anything to help that along or not, but I like to think it did! I also discussed with my GP prior to coming off what skin medications would be safe to use in pregnancy so that I had those as a back up to go and request quickly if I needed them. The other thing is because I wasn’t off it long before getting pregnant I don’t know how it would have reacted longer term without pregnancy hormones interfering! Once actually pregnant I have found my skin completely different to anything before, so I felt like I had no idea what to do with it- reading things like the pregnancy skin care guides on the Uphill blog was really helpful to me, and other tips on rock my style too. Good luck with it all! Xx
Such a great read today and congratulations India! This story has come at a perfect time for me (no babies but huge fan of the whole Rock My portfolio) and i’m so glad to hear we aren’t the only ones who are constantly questioning when is the right time. We have been married for 2.5 years, bought our first home last year and were thinking about starting to try this year…..then of course i was made redundant from my old job but am now thankfully 3 months into my new job (of which i have just been made a permanent member). I am currently to-ing and fro-ing of ‘is this the right time, will i annoy my new employees if i’m heading off on maternity in a years time (this is me presuming that if i start trying in summer i’ll be pregnant straight away!) ‘can we afford a baby, what about nursery fees’…i’m a natural worrier! i’m the first of my friends to be married and to be even thinking about children so don’t really have anyone to talk to about this so it’s reassuring to know others are going through this and i’ll be sitting the husband down for an honest chat about what is best for us and our family! Looking forward to more of your story x
Hi Lucy, thanks so much for sharing your situation, it’s so nice to know I am not the only one who is a planner and thinks things through to such degrees! As I said in the post I think in the end I decided there was just never going to be a perfect time. We thought we were being quite clever about it and had picked a good time, then a couple of weeks after announcing my pregnancy at work a review of our services was announced, outcomes due to be reported just as a I go off on mat leave. In some ways I guess that’s good timing and in other ways bad, but it definitely strengthened my theory that no matter how much you plan there is just no such thing as a perfect time. But I guess the thing is knowing when is right for you, which is the hard part. Good luck with whatever you decide and hopefully sharing my journey will be helpful! Xx
Hello India, welcome to this blog! Im looking Forward to follow your pregnancy journey as this was already a great read! Congratulations on getting pregnant and enjoy the “ride” (weird word choice possibly 😉 ) It took us 1 1/2 years to conceive our little boy who is 15 months now due to PCOS etc. And let me tell you, being a doctor specialising in gyn/obs yourself does not help a bit!
So interesting to hear that, Anja, I guess sometimes all that extra knowledge isn’t helpful, to a certain degree ignorance can be bliss! Thank you for the lovely welcome xx
Hello India!!! So happy to have you on board team RMF. Uni feels like a REALLY long time ago now doesn’t it?! Massive congratulations – I’m really excited for you. I wanted to ask how your friends have been? I really found mixed reactions, as most of our peers are still working their way up the career ladder and having kids isn’t in their realm of thinking at all? Mid-late twenties is apparently quite young to start a family it would seem! It’s been quite a divider actually, and I’m hoping once they have children themselves, our friendships will be restored. Would be interested to know if you’ve felt the same. Sending lots of hugs, and hoping the rest of your pregnancy treats you well xxxxx
Hi Fern,
Yes uni seems like an age ago, can’t believe it’s already nearly a decade since we started! I love reading about your adventures on these blogs so thank you for sharing. On the friends front I think it was a mixture, but overwhelmingly my friends and family have been amazingly supportive, I feel very lucky. I have to say, the babies that arrived over the past 18 months which I mentioned in the post are almost exclusively to my husband’s friends (who naturally after 13 years are firmly my friends too!), but it does mean that not many of my close girl friends have babies or have that on the horizon immediately. I think to be honest because we have been living together for 6 years and together for so long lots of people kind of expected it. At the same time I think some friends find it hard to get their head around what a different stage of life I am at to them. That’s not to say my stage is superior at all, just different as many of them are still travelling, working different jobs month to month, whereas our situation to them probably seems to have much narrower horizons, but is definitely what we want.
I have written on my own blog before about wanting to have it all, and struggling to choose my priorities, and I think that’s definitely the case here, what’s right for me wouldn’t be for everyone. I have also made a conscious effort already to try and make friends with colleagues who are expecting (I am lucky in that I work in a big organisation so always lots of fellow pregnant people!) and live locally as I know how important it is to have mum friends going through the same things as you. Plus very luckily my close colleague is only six days behind me in pregnancy, so I have her as well! But as you say, not straightforward at all. Xx
Hi India, I really enjoyed this article, despite being pretty far from babies! I am 32 and have taken a long time to meet the right guy but I think it has finally happened with someone I met at Christmas. I’m going through a restructure at work and have had to have a long hard think about whether I want to push for promotion and possibly move to London/abroad with work, or if I’m going to have babies within the next 5 years. I think it’s the later. I don’t want to be pulled every which way, feeling like I’m not doing a very good job of anything.
I would love to hear more from people in my situation, if an article could be written on that. Especially someone who hasn’t met the right guy until their 30s.
Plus I would love to read your own blog, can you tell me what it’s called? Thanks!
Only just seen your comment, sorry for the late reply! Lottie is going to include a link to my blog, it’s pretty simple, just http://www.indiawoof.com
Best of luck with your happily ever after with your right guy : ) xx
Hello, My husband and i have been trying for a baby for 6 years now, I’ve have PCOS and I’m now wondering if maybe this isn’t supposed to be for us. Does anyone have PCOS too that have any tips for what worked for them? I’d be very grateful. Congratulations India, very exciting times. x
Hello Kirsty. I have PCOS and myself and my partner have been trying to conceive naturally for a year now and I am just starting to embark on fertility treatment. I would definitely recommend seeing your GP to have all the necessary tests and get a referral to a fertility clinic. This post is interesting as I have all these feelings about when is the right time to have a baby with the added pressure that it might not happen easily so am starting to think about starting a family before perhaps I usually would. Usually you can just come off the pill and relax and see what happens, our situation is a bit more contrived as our decision now comes with taking positive steps to make it happen within 6 months (is the aim for first treatment).
Hi Kirsti, I had/have PCOS. My gynaecologist and I did some research and came across myo-Inositol. I took the powder that is called “Clavella” and finally I had regular periods and became pregnant after using it for a few months.
Hi India,
I can definitely relate to your story! We decided in April that we would start trying but actually by the time we decided I think we were ready for things to change then so now feels like such a waiting game for something you already know that you want. I expected that it would take me months to actually have a period as when I came off the pill when I was younger it was 5 months before I even had a period! But I got my period today which is good news as it means at least I am having them and so we may be in with a chance at some point within the next 6 months.
I did all the same things as you though, bought a few pregnancy tests incase my period didn’t come for a few months, got the ovulation strips but I don’t have a clue how to use them so they can stay in the drawer for now! I am a complete control freak about these things – have got an app that is quite helpful but will try to be more relaxed about it! Is great to hear that other people go through the same things.