The age old debate. It’s one that normally starts when you first get in a relationship, gets harder when you get married and is downright impossible when you have kids.
I mean who do you keep happy by spending Christmas day with them? Which set of grandparents gets to enjoy those magical moments? Or do you just forget it all and spend it as your own little family?
We are pretty lucky that all our family live close by so over the years Edd and I have spent many a Christmas day driving around packing in as many visits as possible. One year, pre kids, we had three Christmas dinners in one day. It was ridiculous. I seemed to spend most of the day rushing around and never felt relaxed. It’s a good job I don’t really drink.
When you have children it’s hard to know what to do. Part of you just wants to hunker down as your own little family unit but at the same time sharing the Christmas magic with your wider family. I’m lucky that I have a close family and we all get along.
We’ve talked about going away for Christmas, we’ve contemplated spending it on our own but for me I love being with everyone. This year we talked about going out to eat but with two little ones that’s not exactly relaxing. Since having the girls I prefer to host myself, it’s just so much easier. Yes, I know it involves cooking and entertaining a lot of people but I really don’t mind. I actually find it more relaxing as after dinner I can just sit down. I then leave it up to everyone if they want to come along. Unfortunately that normally means I end up with a lot of people. I have a rather large family and then when you factor in other halves and Edd’s mum and partner too we are at around fourteen for lunch I think. Help!
I am actually a seasoned pro at this now though. Well sort of. I prep like a boss (in the words of Joe Wicks) the night before and get all the potatoes and vegetables ready and in pans of water on the hob. We are also lucky that I have a big double oven so we can just about squeeze in the giant turkey and all the trimmings.
I love having everyone there. It’s nice to be surrounded by family and although it may be crazy, and rather loud, it’s a lot of fun. The girls love it too. We get the best of both worlds as we have a few hours in the morning to ourselves when the girls have their stockings and a few presents so have that family time first before everyone arrives.
Our family normally arrive late morning to help with any dinner preparations and everyone normally heads home at the end of the day so we don’t have the pressure of people staying over as well which is nice. This year our village pub is opening on Christmas Day for a few hours so I have a feeling I will be shipping a lot of people out the way whilst I finish getting everything ready. Luckily the pub is only a few doors up so I may even get a cheeky celebratory drink myself as I can pop back to check the turkey!
So that’s me this year and I honestly cannot wait. I do love playing hostess (Martha Stewart eat your heart out) and adore having all our family round. It’s noisy and rowdy but the girls absolutely love seeing everyone and I think it just makes it all that more magical and Christmassy.
What are your plans this year and how on earth do you decide where to go? And if you fancy getting even more Christmassy we are talking about when does Christmas really start on Rock My Style and all about planning a winter wedding over on Rock My Wedding.