Last night I eventually kissed my boys to sleep at 10:45pm. Yep you heard me right, 10:45pm. Believe me I tried to ask them to go to bed earlier but, they somehow manage to take forever getting their pyjamas on, visiting the bathroom and insisting on sitting on the edge of my bed for yet another chat about their day.
Don’t get me wrong I absolutely love our chats, in fact they are some of our most hilarious, but I really wish they’d share more of their anecdotes around the dinner table rather than saving them all up for what seems like a diversion to bedtime. It’s not like I don’t ask them what they’ve been up to as soon as they get in from school or playing out, but their replies are always short one word responses and never very elaborate. Come bedtime though it’s like Jackanory is on the telly and they remember EVERYTHING about their day.
One of my concerns is Rob and I literally don’t get any alone time. We rarely get to go out on date nights, so the evenings was our time to have some adult conversation and catch up on the latest episode of Game of Thrones together before joining them in the land of nod. Let alone having time for anything else…
I suppose I can’t complain too much, when they were little their bedtime routines were a dream. They’d both go to bed at 8pm and be asleep by 8:05pm and we wouldn’t hear a peep out of them until 8am the following morning. Obviously as they’ve got older the bedtime has got later, but I’m not sure how we’ve arrived at 10:45pm. This isn’t just during the Summer holidays either, due to clubs this is also a regular occurrence on a School night too.
I am trying hard not to let my liberal approach to the boys bedtime routine impact Anabelle’s bedtime routine, but there are definitely evenings that run away with us and before we know it is gone 9pm before she’s in bed. I strongly believe routine is key, my boys certainly thrived on it when they were little and I just need to get back to enforcing some of my old tips and tricks to get back to where we used to be. Where we want to be!
As the boys are 12 1/2 and 11 now and approach adolescence and puberty soon my main concern is them getting sufficient sleep. Apparently an average teenager only gets between 7 -7 1/4 hours of sleep a night, but needs between 9 – 9 1/2. With the two hour internal shift in a teenagers body clock from 9pm to 11pm, and an early morning rise for school how is that amount of sleep even possible. It’s not encouraged to allow children to catch up and have a lay in at the weekend either. They’ll be missing out on Z’s left, right and centre.
So if any of you lovelies with older children have any tips or insights to share for getting children to go to bed at a decent time, or even ways to ensure you can wind down with your partner of an evening, please leave a comment below.